MattMan and a Better World

My nephew Matthew was brutally beaten, and killed. We're all so sad, yet are lifted by memories and funny anecdotes, like what my oldest nephew reflected to us at Matts' memorial service. He talked about how every time he looked at one of the 2 large images of Matt, he could hear him saying, "What are you all so sad about?" Really, Mattman is not gone. He’s still here, just not physically. He lived joyfully. He was loved by many and that showed in the incredible turn out for his memorial service. Some say 300, 400, 500. I lean more toward the 5-600, as the church’s capacity was 700, with every pew comfortably full. Matthew was a great kid, and had recently fallen in love for the first time. He had a new job that he loved as well, and was working toward his big dreams of being a music producer. This is why we cry. For this beautiful life, that was so abruptly extinguished. I know that he is still here with us, as are all of the ancestors. They want us to get together and end the hatred and violence that has killed so many. Enough. What’s it going to take to stop this madness? 

It is possible to live happy and meaningful lives. We must hold ourselves accountable. No problem, nor solution, exists outside of ourselves. We must look within, into the darkness that we carry, and not be afraid to confront it, shine a light on it, befriend it, and heal what needs healing so that we can co-create that peaceful world we all hope for. Peace is not a spectator sport! Let's do the work of healing our stories, then come together as one, in solidarity for a better world.  

Matthew Tyler Murrell 
July 27, 1990 - July 5, 2016 

Yes, I mourn my nephews death, it was a heinous crime. I expect the days will get better, and I am most grateful for Mattmans' short 25 year life. He was so special. We miss you Matthew. May your Spirit Fly Free! Forever Love, Aunt M.

 

5 comments

  • sandra

    sandra rowe

    i am so sorry marsia. when my nephew joe died by gun violence he was 25 years young too. joe helped me understand that we suffer because we believe they are "gone" when they are not and never will be. much love, sandra

    i am so sorry marsia. when my nephew joe died by gun violence he was 25 years young too. joe helped me understand that we suffer because we believe they are "gone" when they are not and never will be. much love, sandra

  • Mother Turtle

    Mother Turtle

    Thank you Sandra. Sorry for Joe and the violence against him. Our loved ones are indeed always with us. This issue of violence has been pervasive. I am asking myself what I can do. People are desensitized to it and are forgetting their humanity. The guy who killed Matt was also 25 years old. And he not only killed Matt but he killed himself that day. I can't imagine him getting any less than life in prison... I have decided to use Matthews' death as a wake up call, and an invitation for me to look at how I, myself may contribute to violence. How is my anger? How am I treating myself? How am I treating others? Could I do any of it another way and actually bring more joy into my life? After all, my joy is another's joy, as they experience that light that I bring. Matt gave us a good example of that. If we all could just focus on bringing forth more of our light, and stop the judgments and criticisms. Stop the stories. I see a new blog emerging, lol! Peace & Many Blessings to you.

    Thank you Sandra. Sorry for Joe and the violence against him. Our loved ones are indeed always with us. This issue of violence has been pervasive. I am asking myself what I can do. People are desensitized to it and are forgetting their humanity. The guy who killed Matt was also 25 years old. And he not only killed Matt but he killed himself that day. I can't imagine him getting any less than life in prison... I have decided to use Matthews' death as a wake up call, and an invitation for me to look at how I, myself may contribute to violence. How is my anger? How am I treating myself? How am I treating others? Could I do any of it another way and actually bring more joy into my life? After all, my joy is another's joy, as they experience that light that I bring. Matt gave us a good example of that. If we all could just focus on bringing forth more of our light, and stop the judgments and criticisms. Stop the stories. I see a new blog emerging, lol! Peace & Many Blessings to you.

  • Dionne James

    Dionne James

    I took care of all of 3 of the 4 Murrell's in my afterschool & I will ALWAYS REMEMBER Matthew being the smallest one but the one with the MOST heart. I remember him challenging the staff & standing up to Devon & ALWAYS SPEAKING his mind. Im SORRY I didn't have the chance to know him as an adult but will CHERISH the memories I have of him growing up. MAY YOU RIP MATTHEW!

    I took care of all of 3 of the 4 Murrell's in my afterschool & I will ALWAYS REMEMBER Matthew being the smallest one but the one with the MOST heart. I remember him challenging the staff & standing up to Devon & ALWAYS SPEAKING his mind. Im SORRY I didn't have the chance to know him as an adult but will CHERISH the memories I have of him growing up. MAY YOU RIP MATTHEW!

  • mary overbey

    mary overbey Greensboro nc

    beautiful words Sister. my heart breaks for you Matt's parents, and all those who loved him. The violence is a horrific sickness invading our world. I am going to continue to search for ways to bring peace. Tucker was so upset with the hatred and craziness in the world. I feel he and Matt have found each other. love

    beautiful words Sister. my heart breaks for you Matt's parents, and all those who loved him. The violence is a horrific sickness invading our world. I am going to continue to search for ways to bring peace. Tucker was so upset with the hatred and craziness in the world. I feel he and Matt have found each other. love

  • Mother Turtle

    Mother Turtle

    Thank you Mary. I know you understand the loss. Between Tucker and Matthew, we've got 2 awesome Angels on our side! I'd prefer them being here, but since they have moved on, I am comforted in knowing that they now watch over us. Bless you dear sister. Let's keep taking it, one day at a time. Much love, M

    Thank you Mary. I know you understand the loss. Between Tucker and Matthew, we've got 2 awesome Angels on our side! I'd prefer them being here, but since they have moved on, I am comforted in knowing that they now watch over us. Bless you dear sister. Let's keep taking it, one day at a time. Much love, M

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